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“Lenny, May I ask who is the therapist that you and your wife are scheduled to go to?”
I was considering asking the same question, but decided it would not be a wise idea. The purpose of asking such a question is so that we can tell him if we think it’s a good therapist or not. I don’t think that is something that should be done on a public forum. Additionally, there may be people answering the question for all the wrong reasons.
While you are allowed to ask such questions for “toeles”, there are many conditions needed. Asking a question like that in a public forum is almost definitely forbidden. Even just asking him for the name of the therapist is avak loshon hora since it is likely to lead to L”H.
Additionally, the people answering may not be qualified to do so. He should definitely check the therapist out, but not here (on a public forum). He should either call Relief or ask a reliable Rav who knows about these things. As soon as he gets in touch with Rav S.B. Cohen, he should definitely ask him (even if it’s too late to change the appt. at that point).
Additionally, there may be further L”H problems if after he sees the guy, he tells us things about him (if we already know his name).