Reply To: Shidduchim – asking the girl first

“I think most cases the girl’s family are asked first. The only explanation as to why they are asking you last is to encourage you to date more as they may think you declining too many boys.”

They don’t ask me last; they usually ask me first because I tell them to. If I didn’t tell them to, they would probably still ask me first at least half the time.

That’s why I was surprised when I heard that it is a thing in the typical Yeshivish world that the boy HAS to be asked first.