Reply To: Peyos

LU I don’t understand how you are not Charedi because you don’t send your children to Charedi schools and don’t live at home.

C. You’re a grown woman with a life. Surely there are other Charedi women who don’t live at home, for a plethora of reasons.

B. You kinda need kids to send them to school. Obviously you know how ridiculous it is to say that as if it’s somehow an applicable determination of your religious status.

A. Glad that you don’t have peyos.

This reminds me of when I take my dog to get registered. He has to fit into a certain breed based on superficial characteristics. There are only so many dog breed options. So he is a something mix or something else.

Maybe this is not like that because they take him and make him fit into what they have to offer. If I say that he is a this and it is close enough then fine. That’s what he is.

I think if you take it upon yourself to be Charedi, the shadchan best realize that she/he is working with an expert. You are the expert on yourself.

If you are honest and open, which you are, then your classification has more weight. She/He is the expert on matching. You are the expert on yourself.

If a guy dates you and you may be slightly not what he expected, this would be a good opportunity to trust the shadchan and you. He will soon see that you are what you say you are. If it was up to the shadchan alone then he might be expecting someone different that you won’t be able to deliver on, all because your word was not taken enough to heart.

I can def def be wrong. Just some thoughts. Thanks.