LU -“When someone stops being Frum, I think it is usually because there was a problem in the marriage and not the other way around. I remember one time there was a guy I checked out whose wife had stopped being Frum when the marriage went bad. The wife was bt, and a friend of mine made a very good point – As a baalas teshuva, when her marriage failed, all she had left was her family of origin, so the natural thing for her to do was to go back to her family.”
I disagree! IDK who you’re talking about, but I know of a case almost the same. It might even be the same case – who knows?!?
The case I know about is that they had an average marriage and her friend(s) destroyed it. Then she went OTD!
The point is that e/o has a hard time finding out the truth!
One can never find out the truth, unless you dig under every stone!
Here’s another case:
“There was a guy who was redt to me whose wife divorced him while she was expecting her ninth kid. When I looked into it, I found out that he had been physically abusive. I was like, oh yeah, that makes sense, why else would someone get divorced while expecting their ninth?”
I know of a similar case, but it was only during the first pregnancy.
The woman wanted to hurt the baby in her stomach. Don’t ask me how.
Needless to say, he reacted with violence. They got divorced.
There’s so much lying when it comes to Shidduchim, it’s definitely a miracle that anybody gets married and is able to stay married!