In today’s standards letting things pass and being a ???? is shunned on and considered being abused. This applies to both spouses. So thanks to all the posters who infer that the Torah’s moral concepts are old-fashioned. It seems like many of you opt for the easy way out, and rather than work on your middos to benefit yourself and the family, you claim to be doing the ‘healthy’ thing and defend your ‘abused ego’ while absorbing the cost of destroying your families (very selfish).
I will agree that there are rare cases when a spouse is a real jerk, but that is not the most usual case.