“It seems like many of you opt for the easy way out, and rather than work on your middos to benefit yourself and the family, you claim to be doing the ‘healthy’ thing and defend your ‘abused ego’ while absorbing the cost of destroying your families (very selfish).”
It is not at all clear that it is better for the kids to stay together. It may actually be worse. It is impossible to do a valid study on this since the only way the study could be valid is if you compared the SAME family making both choices, and obviously that is impossible to do.
Comparing the kids in families in which the parents chose to get divorced and those in which they didn’t completely invalidates the study since the couples who choose to get divorced usually have way more problems than those who didn’t, and if the kids were messed up, it might be because of the problems that were there before the divorce and not because of the divorce itself. And maybe, the kids in those families would have been worse off if the parents hadn’t gotten divorced.
From personal experience, my parents’ divorce did not mess us up, and every single one of my siblings got married and had a happy marriage.