Yichusdik & Avrum in MD +Infinity!
Thanks lilmod ulelamaid for saying it first and offering thanks too!!!
…..To anyone who thought that I was offering a black and white picture, Ooops, sorry I failed to mention all the things that the non-abusive spouse did over the years to make things work. The food was terrible so the person learned how to cook different types of food, all according to the person’s desires and none were ever good enough. The house was never clean enough so the person would come home from work to a house full of children and clean. The children took up too much time.
There are many things that are inappropriate to add here too.
The person spoke to the abusing spouse kindly, at a different time, not at all, when requested, through a family member, it goes on. It’s maddening to figure it out because there is nothing to figure out about this case of irrational behavior. What worked was staying far away.
This is my family that I am talking about. My parents. I love them. Each parent has strengths and weaknesses. Being separated from each other allowed me to appreciate each as a person with unique qualities. Baruch Hashem.
No one goes into a marriage G-d forbid expecting or wanting to divorce. My parents married after only a few months. They moved to another country. Isolation from social support. Obviously the parent that was abusive does not think that anything is wrong with the behavior. I know better thank G-d. My parents are divorced. Both of my parents had a parent die when they were teenagers. May my parents live to 120 in good sweet health with long days with blessings always B’esrat Hashem with Hashem’s loving-grace.