Joseph +1. Yours is the best answer since mine (I didn’t read the old posts).
Avi K – the things you are writing about are not the definition of Chareidi. At best they may be things that are commonly found in the Chareidi world but definitely not the definition. You can be Chareidi and think that women should not go to work and/or be in favor of secular studies.
Being Chareidi is basically just as Joseph put it (and I did earlier) the default definition of Frum – what you are if you are not Mizrachi.
and btw, the “Chareidi world” does not “reject secular studies”. They minimize the time devoted to it because of bitul Torah concerns. The girls, on the other hand, for whom that is not a concern, do receive a secular education including a minimum of two or three years post-high school.