In addition to an emotional connection, I want to have someone who cares about and actively works on being healthy. Not extreme.
Yes the… Emotional connection (attraction and being able to communicate and relate and feel safe with the perso) for me is also a must.
Yet to get to the point of Abba_S’s “can you spend the rest of your life with your date then take the plunge and get married,” I can’t “see” myself living with junk food and alcohol in the house for the rest of my life.
What’s that? A lifestyle connection? A lifestyle/values/priorities mismatch wears away at an emotional connection.
Maybe having those in line is enough to Kindle an emotional connection in marriage.