Does approaching marriage from a logical perspective make it more or less vulnerable to be founded on conditional love?
I wonder if one or both spouses would be disappointed and lose interest if theor expectations aren’t fulfilled.
For example, marrying…
*A kollel guy who later wants to work
*A skinny woman who gains weight after having children
*A very neat and organized person who becomes less organized around the house [which could be due to married stresses and time restraints]
*Someone to have children but the spouse is sterile
*Someone on a high level of frumkeit who later goes otd
*A good cook who stops cooking
*Someone with similar athletic interests but later is injured and can no longer join the spouse
I imagine any of these scenarios being more of an issue if someone didn’t come into marriage with an emotional connection.
The logical point of view, imho (btw I always mean “In/in my humble opinion” when I say IMHO or imho), sometimes sounds like it is more of a business deal.
But… I do think it works for some people and real love and emotional connection comes afterward.