If it’s getting serious, doesn’t that mean there is a connection? (I wouldn’t know – I’m just asking because I think that’s what it would mean for me).
I guess you really need people who have been there to answer this, but I would think that it would come from conversations about things that are important to you and involve expressing your feelings and showing that the other person’s feelings matter to you.
It seems to me that connections are reached with other people when you feel comfortable opening up to them. And also, when you let them know that their feelings and opinions matter to you (not by telling them straight out obviously, but by showing them by the way you respond to things they say).
I would be interested in hearing what the married people have to say about this.