Avram in MD: I think we can agree that, like you said, love is the fuel which makes the engine/marriage run. And without love, it is very to continue a relationship, let alone start one. But I think we have to make a differentiation in love. Infatuation is not love, and it is nearly impossible to attain a real feeling of love in the beginning stages of a marriage, because it is something that can only be reached with long-term effort, commitment, and a real knowledge and appreciation for one’s spouse. We can agree love is not an emotion, because emotions come and go but as you said “I’ve never woken up and decided ‘I’m just not feelin’ the love today.’ … Proper perspective on our emotions is vital.” So to start, I believe we can agree that basing a relationship on infatuation, and therefore on the feeling people think love is, will not work out, for the above reason that that comes and goes and isn’t yet substantial.
Menu