I have a friend who went out with her husband for a while (at least by Yeshivish standards – I don’t think it was actually that long). She told me that someone told her the following (I hope I have this right):
“If either your head or your heart is in favor and the other one is not against, you should keep going out.”
I have often been in situations where my heart was definitely against (I’m not sure about my head) and I was pressurred to keep going out. I think that is wrong! Probably, the people involved didn’t realize that my heart was against and they just thought I was neutral.