Avram in MD, the sentiments in your post are beautiful. I think you summed up what true love is.
Anyone remember that song from Fiddler on the Roof “Do you love me?”
Mrs. Tevye gives a long list of things she has done for her husband for more than 20 years, and concludes, “if that’s not love, then what is?” There is a lot of truth to that- forming an emotional connection is all about giving to and concern about the other person. In fact, you don’t have to rely on Tevya and his wife- Lehavdil, Rav Dessler states that love comes from giving. So if a couple sees that they are at the point where they want to give to each other, and are prepared to do so, then they can be assured that the emotional connection will come.