BigGolem: “Would you agree with someone ending a relationship due to lack of emotional connection, even if the other party has everything this person is looking for?”
Avrum in MD: “If that were the case, then I’d first investigate why an emotional connection wasn’t forming.”
Avrum in MD +1. There have been many times when I went out with someone and I felt that it made sense logically but emotionally there was no connection. I would continue to go out with the person several times even though I was miserable, because I felt that I didn’t have a good reason to stop and people were pressuring me tremendously. Eventually, I would break up with the guy (despite the pressure) but feel very guilty about it, because I felt like I didn’t have a good reason, and people would still pressure me (after I broke up with him) to go out again. Sometimes, this would continue until the guy finally got married, Boruch Hashem!
Usually, it’s only after I stop going out with someone that I am able to realize that there WERE very good, logical reasons why he wasn’t for me, but it was hard for me to realize it at the time because I didn’t want to be judgmental and think badly of someone.
The point is that if you are not feeling an emotional connection, there may in fact be a very good, logical reason for it.