sorry, BG, I didn’t mean to make you feel bad about making me feel bad 🙂
I was kind of just rambling. But thank you for making me feel better. I guess it’s true that getting hurt (and hurting others) while dating is inevitable. But I do think that there can be better ways to handle things. I don’t think that hurting others should be inevitable. I think that there was a Gadol (maybe Rav Moshe Feinstein, zatsal, but I’m not sure) who said that he never hurt anyone in his life. And Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach, zatsal, said at his wife’s levaya, that he had nothing to ask her mechila for.
I think that if someone really wants to, it should be possible to never hurt someone else. But maybe I’m just too much of a perfectionist.
Anyhow, I appreciate your words.