fine, but you’re still talking about a case where he doesn’t want to get married at all. I don’t think that’s what we have been talking about. Although I did actually mention such a case as a possible exception in an above post (http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/a-posek-can-tell-you-who-to-marry#post-642538)
And it’s pretty rare for someone to davka not want to get married. There are people who have a hard time actually doing it for whatever reason, but that doesn’t mean that they davka don’t want to get married.
And if there are cases like that, I can’t imagine that a beis din nowadays would force them to get married. I also can’t imagine that there are too many girls who would agree to marry such a person. And I also can’t imagine that it would be very helpful for such a person to force him to get married. He probably either needs psychological help or has a good reason for not wanting to get married or both, and forcing him to get married would not be very helpful in most cases.
On the other hand, there are many guys who want to get married in theory, but are either having trouble committing or have ridiculous ideas of what they are looking for (often extreme age differences), but don’t seem to have serious psychological problems Some of these guys might actually have been helped by a Beis Din forcing them to marry one of the girls whom they went out with and had no good reason for not marrying. But l’maaseh, no one is doing that. If that were really doable, it would be a great way to solve the shidduch crisis. There are a lot of older guys who are too picky and meanwhile they just keep getting older and older.