The Chabad Rebbe of blessed memory said that a person needs to look for one’second beshert like looking for a lost object.
Sometimes for me that means turning things around and scattering what was once organized around the room. It could mean calling people to ask if they saw it. Describing it to people. Taking time from other matters just to keep looking. Asking others to help search.
All of which blur the boundaries of what was otherwise orderly and normal.
The question is whether or not this is mutter and tznius. Maybe it is similar to asking if it’s okay to throw stuff around the room and make a mess. Normally no. It’s disrespectful and a waste of time. Perhaps here HM613’s point is valid.
Meanwhile it is important to note that there is no perfect woman or man. Maybe someone who is perfectly imperfect for someone else and vice versa.