Probably more than you are (no offense).
In any case, I didn’t really mean it as proof that one can’t decide that the way dating is done is problematic and should be changed.
The arguments would be:
1. When asked a question, I think the general rule is that you are supposed to respond to what is being asked and not to what is not being asked. Like the ignorant 14 year old baal teshuva who asked his Rav if he’s allowed to go to dances during the Nine Days and was simply told “no”. He went to Yeshiva the next year and eventually figured out for himself that it’s always assur.
2. As I think was already said (maybe by you?), the Rabbanim don’t come out against everything; sometimes we are supposed to figure things out for ourselves. Especially if we are not talking about a halachic issue.