The difference is not intent (subjective) but context (objective).
I can agree with this. We then have the question if during dating/engagement the context is ??????? or Toeles.
I believe that the “dibbur” in the Ramah and the Shach is going on Kalush Rosh
So then please define ???????. You previously said “In my understanding “schok” means having fun or laughing together in a non-platonic manner.”
How would you define a “non-platonic manner”, and is it automatically a “non-platonic manner” when dealing with an Ervah?