I think you are thinking too much. Just buy a car that fits what your needs are. It’s a big purchase, but not a life-long commitment. I assume you are not planning on buying some fancy sports car that you will feel uncomfortable driving when you are 10 years more mature. And if you outgrow it and need a minivan in 10 years from now, you can always sell this one and upgrade to the larger car.
I would advise in any case to get a car big enough to fit other people (i.e not one of those mini compact cars), so you can do chesed with your car by giving rides.
I would ask your mechanic what cars are the most reliable- repairmen in general are good sources of information as to makes and quality.