1.Why do people get offended by “iy”h by you”? I try not to say it because it became “taboo” but I don’t truly get why it should make people angry.
I always appreciate a bracha, but I remember one time in particular someone (also single) told it to me, completely dripping with nebach. Its not something that caused warm, fuzzy feelings. Also, I can see that people would want to be acknowledged for something other than their single status. IMO, an honest bracha would be appreciated, but its the kind of thing that depends on the person…
WB, eclipse 🙂