AI:
Expensive? It’s the most cost effective way to get your daughter married! Most girls are engaged before they date 5 boys 4x’s each. Exact amounts should be left to each family, Just know two points.
1. getting to a fourth date is not easy. Getting even to a 2nd date is not easy. We are not discussing a bribe, we are discussing recognition of the effort that it takes and showing appreciation for it. Whatever the individual feels is appropriate is what they should do. NOT to be yotzei, NOT to bribe, but to show sincere appreciation for what was already done.
2. The key here is rewarding for a achievable result. It’s a simple effective concept. Date number two means it wasn’t a bomb and it takes work to set up ANY date.
Someone recently said to me “I should should pay S100 every month??” I responded you should wish your daughter would get to a date number two, 12x’s a year…… He heard me loud and clear.