LB – if someone does something against Jews, you should be judgmental, at least about their actions.
In general, there is a big difference between judging someone’s actions and judging the person.
My point about their comment being anti-women was as follows: if it really were demeaning to women to exclude them from ads (as they apparently feel), then they would be right for apologizing even though they did so because it’s offensive to Chareidim to have pictures of women.
If a certain religious group believes in demeaning a certain type of person, it doesn’t make it okay for others to do so in order to avoid offending them (and to get their business).
So based on their understanding of the issue, they are in the right. The problem is that their understanding of the issue is all wrong. That is what I was speaking about. I understand why they don’t understand the issue, but the fact is that their actions are still wrong.
Anytime I criticize someone, it is always their actions I am criticizing. I have no means of judging the person. My assumption is always that the person is a product of a combination of nature, nurture, and society. It is impossible for a human being to ever judge another human being – only Hashem can do that – we can only judge their actions.