Rebshidduch, the reason I asked you what advice I gave previously that didn’t work was because it will help me to figure out what advice to give now.
The truth is that I’m not sure I can help you to get a mentor. It is very hard to do these things over an anonymous website where no one can speak too freely. I have tried before and not been successful. And apparently I tried with you as well.
I don’t know where you live or who you are or where you go to school, etc. And you can’t give me too much information.
What you need is someone who can give you advice about getting a mentor, but someone with whom you can talk more freely and they can speak to you more freely. Maybe there is another trustworthy online source where you have that option. I don’t mean a chatroom.
I am thinking of some kind of Frum website which has people (preferably experts) whom you can ask advice from on a one-on-one level. Maybe you can write to one of Aish.com’s advice columns. Or maybe you can write to the Yated’s Shidduch roundtable.
If none of those work, maybe you can find something similar. Or maybe you have a friend or teacher in real life whom you can ask about this (how to find someone to talk to). And truthfully, if you have no one in real life whom you are comfortable asking such a question to, then maybe you need to work on building such connections before you are ready to think of getting married.
Marriage is wonderful (so I’ve been told), but it’s hard work, especially at the beginning. You need a support system before you get married, imho.
I’m sorry I can’t help you further. But I really hope that you find someone who can.
Have you considered going to seminary or taking classes in a seminary? In a seminary, you would have opportunities to find Rebbeim or Rebbetzins or teachers whom you can connect with. Either they can be your mentors or they can help you to find one.
I don’t know where you are located, but if it’s realistic, have you tried Ohr Nava? I think that might be a great place for you.
edited. It is not advisable to recommend websites that you do not know to be safe.