Reply To: marrying a good boy who might not be good enough for you

being untruthful to keep the peace is a big sugya (a lot of gemora but your a girl so…) the main sources are bereishis 18; 12-13 and rashi on 13 also bereishis 50; 16 and rashi. The basic gist is there’s a machlokes between rashi and ari hazakein if you’re allowed to lie outright (a”h) or only allowed to change / mislead (rashi) i heard from a gadol that we paskin like the ari. Either way there should be no problem telling him your “exploring your options” or even “seeing other people” if that would get him to stop being inappropriate in a peaceful manner…