It’s helped for me:
1. I’ve realized that past dates were there to help me work on my middos and get a better grasp on what I need in a partner (rather than what I want) and who I want to become (rather than who I think that I “should” be and become).
2. I’ve learned that others in the parsha have both unique struggles and ones that I can directly relate to thus far. It is encouraging to know that we can all overcome barriers with perseverance, histadlus, emuna, and bitachon.
3. I really love hearing from married posters who talk about how they struggled and now are happily married. Also, I love hearing from posters who shared about their children’s struggles in the parsha and in time too found their besherts. Personally, I find such personal accounts as a light to show me that this too shall pass and one day B”H I too will have a story to share about the parsha.
4. I also decided not to start smoking.