you know those horror stories where the info given is totaly wrong? where you imagine the shadchan must’ve read off of someone else’s resume than the one you’re going with? This happened to a close friend of mine. She is from a family where the shidduch goes through the shadchan and they did not knwo each other beforehand. This guy turns upat her house looking anything except like a boy sitting and learning. She went with him only cuz she was dressed adn refused to hurt the boy. She just hoped she’d be taken to a place where no one she knew would be there. Being the boy he was, he took her to a place where most yeshivish dates dont go. He kept making hints about how romantic the place was, how beautiful she looked…things that scared her completely. After a 4 hour date, she was dropped off at home.
They did not go out again….