Redleg, you are right, but with one crucial prerequisite:
The person needs to be able to handle the exchange with the maturity and sensibility that, for better or for worse, many of our brothers and sisters simply don’t have. For some people (feivel), even a hint of a smile is enough to cause “an earthquake of emotion”. So know who you’re dealing with. That’s all.
Wow, and you don’t even know him.