(I thought I replied here is the gist again)
“Since it was said in response to the OP’s comment, that is the logical conclusion.”
No, the OP did not give much (any?) details .Which minhgaim? why does he beleive the “ashkenbazi” minhagim are mehudar?
I gave a very superficial, general response to a general question: Generally minhagim shouldnt be abandoned
“it was clear that I meant that I don’t have a definite opinion regarding when a person should or should not follow their families’ minhag.”
that is all we are discussing, namely abandoning minhagim. IF you dont have an opinion, you dont have to comment. There is no need to say “Theres nothing wrong with abandoning minhagim, though mesora should be kept, though I dont have an opinion” (not a verbatim quote)
“This is because I don’t think I have a right to have a definite opinion, since it is not something that is a black-and-white halacha”
you have that backwards, if it was black and white halacha THEN you wouldnt have a right to an opinion, I assume youd follow halacha. Only that which is NOT black and white halacha can you have an opinion.
“Again, I don’t think it’s necessarily a problem for someone to not follow their father’s mesorah, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t respect mesorah.”
That might be the definition of not respecting mesora. (though you gave yourself the out, with “necessarily” much as I did)
And as far as halacha, you forgot to mention that depending on which minhagim, he may have to do hataras nedarim.
Look, the point is this: Generally speaking, should a person follow his family’s mesora/minhagim.
Yes or No?
(Again, As I said this isnt absolute, I am asking GENERALLY)