“Lilmod, I understand where you are coming from 100%. But even the guy was giving me ways of how to get involved in kiruv. So he supports me.”
And therefore? That still doesn’t mean you’re ready to do kiruv. As you yourself wrote: “But at the same time I myself am dating guys who are close to being OTD or actually OTD so there is a contradiction going on.”
You have to be strong in your Yiddishkeit before you can be mekarev others. Read Yishcusdik’s list of qualifications.