Joseph – I think that you and M are saying the same things. I don’t think she meant what you thought she meant. The misunderstanding is based on her first sentence which was phrased in a way that was misleading.
She does not mean that men are not good fathers. Her whole point is the same as what you had said previously – that the role of a mother is very different from the role of a father. For a woman, her role as mother is much more encompassing than the role of a father is for a man.
From her first sentence in her first post, it was easy to misunderstand and think that she was saying that this is a problem, but from the rest of the post (as well as her second post), it is clear that was not what she meant at all.
M- do you see why it was easy to misunderstand from your first sentence? (“I think it’s because in frum families, women tend to make much better mothers than men make fathers”). That sentence makes it sound like you think it’s a problem. It sounds like you think that men aren’t good fathers, and that’s what Joseph was reacting to.