Reply To: The Wicked Son, and the Kiruv System

yekke2: I have heard a number of tirutzim. One is from The Lubavitcher Rebbe TZTZAL notes that the Baal Haggadah refers to them as ARBAAH BONIM (the 4 sons). Even though he is a “rasha” he is still part of “BONIM ATEM L’ASHEM and is still a “ben”.

This is not true. See the Rambam Pirush Mishnayos at the beginning of Perek Chelek: Somebody who is koifer in the Ikrei Hadas is no longer considered a part of Klal Yisroel; his mitzvos are not mitzvos, and for all intents and purposes, he has the law of a Goy.