@lowermytuition11210
You did not argue or bash ‘gift slinging’ you simply stated what you did not receive and did not give.
People must understand that NO gift can be a must. There are traditions, period. I have constantly advocated on the CR that people should live within their means and not go into debt.
I have worked hard for what we have amassed. We have also been fortunate to inherit things, not money. I never would have gone out and bought Mrs. CTL a 5 carat diamond ring. However she wears a stone of that size that my grandfather received in settlement of a debt in the 1930s. Some day, I expect it will adorn a grandson’s or great grandson’s wife’s finger.
We’re making our last daughter’s chasunah Sunday. No wedding palace and $200 per plate meal. It will be in our gardens by her choice. The cooking and baking has been done in our kitchens.
We are not and have never been in competition with our friends and neighbors. I remember many decades ago an old camp friend of Mrs. CTL making a snide remark because our eldest baby didn’t have a Perego carriage, but a no name carriage. About 6 years later, they called asking for the name of a good bankruptcy attorney.