@ Joseph
How long do you think it takes a guy to get physically ready as oppose to a girl? (hair, nails, makeup, clothing decision. etc)
Secondly; A girls generally invests far more emotionally – especially if she doesn’t have a list of boys waiting.
Furthermore – Many guys really don”t do too much “brainstorming” about where to go. They have a list of places from all their friends. Ever hear of Starbucks and Dave and Busters? Classic. Abigails or Le Marias?. You mentioned: “walk her to the door”….I honestly didn’t view mentchlechkeit as so burdensome.
One advice for marriage – try to view things from the other perspective.