Reply To: How could a girl ever have a bad date?

You are correct. If the references would be straight forward and state; he is a boor, a bore, smells like a boar, dresses like a slob, has the middos of a racoon and is a self absorbed baby, and in fact he turns out to be just that, you are correct, they have nothing to complain about. However, when they are told he is the creme de la creme of his yeshiva, the gaonis to be the next rosh yeshiva, with middos that make him a shoo in as the next mashgiach, and he turns out to be a boor etc… they have every right to complain. either they were lied to by the references, or the guy was deliberately a jerk.