” I’m not sure what your point was in bringing in the link to the “calling cops” thread, but I think that thread definitely demonstrated that there are many people who need to work on their realization that it is important to ask sheilahs!”
“Im ein daas, havdalah minayin.”
you dont need daas “ask sheilas” you need daas to make a differentiation between when a sheilah is appropriate and when it isnt. Of course it is sometimes appropriate to ask, but it often isnt and knowing that distiction requires daas.