“How can anyone logically disagree?”
I dont understand how anyone can logically accept the age gap theory
first of all the musical chairs analogy falls flat after thinking about it for more than 2 seconds, because in shiduchim the music doesnt stop. chairs and players are regularly added for all eternity.
Secondly as explained many years ago:
“The shidduch process in our community works something like this: shadchan suggests girl, boy’s side looks into her, Boys side agrees, girls side looks in and agrees, they date, get engaged and married. Asking around the problem in the chain is that girls arent getting enough dates.
Assuming 100 guys for 112 girls. The guys often date several girls before finding the one. assuming each guy dates 3 gitls before settling down that is 300 dates for the 112 girls.that Should more than cover all girls. The issue shouldnt be girls struggling with “short lists and relatively infrequent dating” All girls should get an equal number of dates though a few dont get married.
The calculations upon which the Age gap tm is based is a “situation in which elements of two distinct sets (think of single men and single women) may be paired in a one-to-one manner (think of marriage)” This holds true for marriage but not dating. By far most Guys date more than one girl And some a lot more.
Therfore the age gap can not be used to explain why girls aren’t getting dates.
In short, the boys are going out with a subset of the available girls. Not because there aren’t enough boys.
To go back to the popular musical chairs example. IF upon observing the game you notice that after every round the same players are left standing (some even when there are chairs available) even if at the very design of the game no matter what you do soem players wil lreamin standing. There is something up with these players and not the game