I’ve never received answers to the following questions that drive a stake right through this propaganda:
1. Proponents of this theory inevitably believe in the concept of a bashert and that God created a soul-mate for every person born. So how do they explain from a theological perspective how God could possibly be responsible for a demographic imbalance, as only He could be?
2. How is it moral and ethical for a shadchan to suggest anything other than the most suitable match for her client, and instead let a presumed demographic issue factor into her matchmaking?
3. How is it moral and ethical for a shadchan to hide from singles that they are influenced by outside factors?
4. If it is true that women are at such a terrible disadvantage, why are women so quick to turn down suitors, often for the most trivial reasons? That is hardly the behavior one would expect from people who are supposedly competing for a mate from an endangered species. Did single women fail to get this memo?
Again, the next person who directly and pointedly responds to these questions instead of insulting me and claiming I lack mathematical acumen will be the very first.
Those interested in a dose of reality instead of blindly accepting propaganda should read my books, EndTheMadness Guide to the Shidduch World, How to Not Get Married: Break these rules and you have a chance, and watch my documentary on the shidduch world from a man’s perspective, Single Jewish Male