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As I already posted I agree that my story is anecdotal and proves nothing.
Regarding the 12th grade boys to 9th grade girls example,
I have only seen numbers (from the organization LIBI) from monsey and Lakewood. Even if you assume that their numbers are correct, it doesn’t prove anything.
There are dozens of frum communities across the world and shidduchim a boy/girl from Lakewood/Monsey isn’t only going to marry a girl from the same city that they are from.
12th grade boys don’t exclusively marry 9th grade girls. Some might marry a 10th,11th, 12th,or even 8th grade girl. The same is true that some of the 11th grade boys, some will marry girls who aren’t in the corresponding 8th grade. Boys and girls have never exclusively chosen their spouses from the grade 4 years below theirs.
Another small factor that plays a role and needs to be considered is that people enter, and unfortunately leave, the frum community. This can also slightly mess with the 12th grade 9th grade numbers.