Absolutely, tho not exclusively! Tho many people here would rather believe that Hashem just couldn’t figure out how to bring enough boys into the world (lost the recipe?) or that His timing seems off somehow, because it absolves them from the responsibility of introspection, tshuva, charata and finding a way to actually be mechanech the coming doros on what qualities in life as actually being important.
When someone has 50 girls names and 50 boys names, and then some mothers check facebook, and google plus as well as their 4 “shidduch WhatsApp groups” they come across pictures, stories or rumors that automatically toss 20 (arbitrary number) girls or boys into the “no thank you” pile. Not even worth finding out if the “research is relevant or legitimate”. They don’t like the smile, the weight, the friends, the fact that there was a picture online….you name the reason (SPECIFICALLY *NOT* halachically sound reasons, just preferential reasons).
Now our “pool” is shrunken, a whole bunch of people are in the “reject pile” and the numbers are uneven. So many girls and boys have been dumping shidduch suggestions after their social media research which is, unfortunately, not always accurate and upstanding. And after dumping all those names…they wonder why there “are no suggestions coming in” (well, of course, I only mean GOOD suggestions. theyother names don’t count)
We used to be very careful who we approached for information. We never sent out bulk mailings to find out about someone. If you asked 100 people about almost anyone, you will invariably find people with a vendetta, similar sounding name, bad experience.
And since you don’t really “know” many of the sources of information, how can you possibly interpret their subtle descriptions “she’s definitely her own thing”, “oh he used to be all over the place” (in kindergarten, but…whatever) “definitely intense”.
I, for one, am pretty sure Hashem is still making shidduchim. I have seen enough to believe we no longer “sift through” our options very well. When 10 people are in a room and someone walks in, looks around and says, “where is everybody” it is obvious that they have specific people in mind. but it is also obvious that they just batuled those 10 people.
And it is an old lesson that when we fail to adequately appreciate the gifts that Hashem gives us, and we start tossing them in “reject piles”, Hashem gives less gifts so that we can do a cheshbon hanefesh, figure out why we are suffering from this deprivation, AND CHANGE. Finding sociological excuses is denial. Thinking Hashem is depriving people of shidduchim because the gene pool is off kilter is offensive. Daven for the singles, and daven for the dor who can’t figure out if they really want to be stuck with someone who wore brown flats with their mustard colored skirt and stood next to a lady who was ugly in a picture they got from someones status pic.