@Shtika
I haven’t read 4 comments awaiting moderation………………………..
I am a family law attorney (I’m not looking for your business and don’t practice in NY or NJ)
Speaking from decades of experience, staying married for the sake of the children usually harms both parents and the children. Children above the age of about 4 know when their parents are not living in harmony. The kids end up walking on eggshells trying not to show favoritism and end up with many psychological problems.
The fact that a spouse doesn’t want to go to marriage counseling doesn’t mean you shouldn’t seek a therapist to help you make the marriage work or make your exit as comfortable for the family as can be.
I can honestly say from experience, and I practice in a state that requires marriage counseling before a divorce can be granted, marriage counseling hastens divorce far more often than it saves a marriage.