Shidduchim can be a difficult time. I think alot more sympathy is given to girls in this area. It’s hard for guys too. And when you spend alot of time and money on a girl and after 7 dates she’s not interested that can be difficult to deal with.
If you are really struggling financially you could try and do more low cost dates. You could do ten hotel dates for the.cost of one fancy restaurant. Going to movies?!? Not something that should be done. Even if it was allowed it’s a waste of time being that you aren’t interacting. But it’s not allowed so don’t even have to go into it.
I don’t know if you have had to travel for shidduchim but the flights and car rentals add up really fast. So if you haven’t, consider yourself lucky.
I don’t know about this but sometimes people may be able to figure out if it’s the right person or not earlier on and Don’t need to keep going on so many dates. For example if you aren’t attracted, how big differences in hashakafa or want different life styles then it’s probably time to drop it. No need to keep going out.
It’s also always important to remember that Hashem is with us. We put in our hishtadlus, work on middos, clarify to ourselves what wee need in a shidduch and what we want but can do with out.
Hatzlacha