Don’t they say that no one is the same person that his or her spouse thought he or she was after getting married?
LB: Who is they? Everyone. People. Jewish. Your rabbi. Your rebbetzin. NonJewish. Your teacher. Your physician assistant. Your neighbor.
Wait no. Many people say that whole thing about the person you married being different after marriage. That’s life.
But then again, I’ve heard that if you do the work of getting to know the person, in a variety of situations, then you can at least know the foundation of a person.
In other words, you can trust B”H that this person is compatible with you. Or maybe I’m just misinterpretating it with optimism?
Thanks ☺