You guys can spout your views of halacha with a gazillion cites to maseches gitten as to the prescribed outcomes. In the real world, where at least some of us live, a couple will consult with the rav and other professionals and pursue the path that works for them. Hopefully, they will find a way of staying together, but as the majority of posters have noted, sometimes a point is reached where the marriage must end. Generally, a beis din will find a way in those cases for a get to be issued so that both can move on in their lives and the children are not living in a combat zone. Where that is not possible, there are sadly a growing number of cases where couples simply move apart and live single lives w/o a get and in some cases, simply rely upon civil divorce understanding the consequences from a halachic perspective.
