Correction on last post: I meant “sheilahs that come up and could or should be asked.”
and if you’re going to be nit-picky and tell me that wasn’t my exact loshon, my exact loshon in my original post was: “Not necessarily in terms of how many sheilas people ask, but at least in terms of how many sheilas they actually have and would want to ask”
and the women in this case (who asked the sheilah to their husbands) would want to ask, and in fact, they did ask – they just chose the “wrong” person to ask, or maybe they had no choice.