In The River, the Kettle and The Bird, Rav Aharon Feldman
quotes the Vilna Gaon as saying (commentary on Shir haShirim 5:2)
that there are 4 basic causes of love – we love someone who 1) gives us
physical pleasure, 2) assists us in accomplishing our goals, or 3) in whom
we recognize noble qualities of character. 4) We may also love someone
for no conscious reason other than that we sense that they love us.
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