Ugh this is a sickening discussion to me at least. In general, anything that makes a big difference to a marriage should be discussed. Not every bit of information needs to be disclosed such as every wound suffered or every first grade secret.
The fact this discussion is even taking place means there are people in the Torah world who have reached such a low level that they value looks as the ikkar so they would get upset about such a thing. I don’t know anyone who for plastic surgery for shidduchim either and the suggestion that one would need one to get married I also find sickening.