OK you’re right I was thinking this is a good application of the tochacha thread 🙂 but Otoh since I don’t know anyone personally, and no one knows me, I thought maybe its gone because it’s expressing a Torah perspective?
And also wanted to send this message to the op, who if I’m not mistaken, says she has just started shidduchim and is finding the various pressures overwhelming.
I want to tell you lb that this is not a normal Torah value, to put physical beauty above all else and therefore there is no need to succumb to such pressures