mdd1:
I am not disrespecting the Satmar Dayanim. I never spoke of them with disrespect, and despite drastic disagreement, I do not consider them negative. I believe they are dangerously wrong, and I have provided a small sample of guidance from Gedolei Yisroel to support the position. Likewise, the experience of so many proves my point, that only love and embrace brings these kids back. MY disagreement is not based on their Torah knowledge, but in their understanding of the subject matter. I have no problem with stating that I qualify to assess that, and kal vachomer many others who I referenced above.
The question about how we are to act, knowing their position and that of nearly all other gedolim is serious, as the consequences are potentially grave. I would say that for someone to pick up their publication and blindly follow it is grossly irresponsible. Before examining how to deal with a specific situation, I believe one needs to be fully informed. One must be aware that this psak from the Satmar Dayanim is a lone shittah, and opposite of all other poskim. For anyone that has experience with learning gemora, it is not unusual for there to be a shittas tanaim or amora’im, and certainly among rishonim and acharonim that is a lone voice. We are obligated to follow the majority. I am not prescribing what to do for anyone else, but to stay away from a lone shittas yochid has great precedent. But I am not a talmid chochom, so these words of wisdom do not apply.
Lastly, I disagree with the premise that these OTD kids are kofrim. They are kids in pain, and are the same בנים למקום as the greatest תלמידי חכמים. Among the seforim I quoted earlier, several discuss the status of חולה נפש, while others use terminology of חולה הרגשי. Check them out. Then direct your disagreement to them. I have just studied their seforim, gained much practical experience, and communicate with contemporary Gedolei Yisroel. That’s how I formulate my positions.